You don’t have to be young to experience young love. While the media doesn’t tend to put seniors and dating together, finding love in retirement is entirely possible (and normal). Whatever your circumstances, if love is in the air, it may be time to follow your heart. Make the most of your forays into dating in retirement with these seven tips:
1. Remember that finding love in retirement is entirely normal
Canada has a larger senior population than ever before, and many of them are looking for love and romance. Whether you’ve been single your whole life or are seeking companionship after divorce or the loss of a spouse, dating in retirement is normal and healthy.
2. You’re not an awkward teenager anymore (thankfully)
One of the key benefits of dating as a senior? Life experience. You’re not going into the dating game with youthful naïveté — you’ve lived life and know what matters and what doesn’t. You know how to communicate, and you know yourself. Use that to your advantage!
3. But still embrace your inner teenager
No matter how old you are, you will always feel nervous and giddy on a first date. Enjoy the feelings of excitement, romance, and anticipation. Let yourself be swept off your feet a little. Who says teenagers get to have all the fun?
4. Be picky
You know what’s important to you and where you’re willing to compromise. Don’t let someone pressure you into changing something you value about yourself, be it your need for alone time or how much you value time with your family. There are plenty of other fish in the dating pool. You deserve respect and to have your needs met. If your date needs something you can’t give, they’re not the right match for you.
5. Make use of online dating sites and services
Depending on when you were last on the dating scene, you may not be familiar with the world of online dating. Dating sites can help you find people you might not meet otherwise. There are even some that specialize in romance for seniors. Before you dive in, there are some things you should know, but they’re a great resource if you’re comfortable with technology.
6. Take care of your (sexual) health
Dating in retirement can be rewarding and wonderful. It can also be risky to your health if you’re not safe. While most retirees don’t need to worry about pregnancy risks, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are a risk for anyone participating in unprotected sex. Take care of yourself (and your partner) and make informed choices. Get tested for STIs and use a barrier method (male or female condom) with new partners.
7. Have fun
Above all, remember that dating is supposed to be fun! Let go of some of the pressure of finding love in retirement and enjoy the process. Maybe your date this Saturday won’t be a soulmate, but you can still have fun together.
You deserve love and happiness so embrace the world of seniors and dating. You know yourself pretty well at this point in your life, so you’re in the best position to find someone who complements you and makes you happy. You’re never too old to find new love!
Do you have a story about dating in retirement? We’d love to hear it! Share your experiences with us in the comments below.